Advocating for Yourself

Everyone has different wants and needs. Unfortunately, no matter how good your support system is, others will never be able to fully understand what you are going through. The people around you may be there to support you and offer assistance when you are in need, but we can’t expect others to identify and act on every stressful encounter you have. In particular, when living with a chronic illness, much of the battle you face will be a lonely one. You will always be your own best advocate, so recognizing your needs and taking actions necessary for self-help is the best advice we can give.

What does it mean to advocate for yourself?

When you feel like something is wrong, whether it is a big or small concern, let someone know. Be assertive and explain how you really feel, and do not let others take advantage of you. Make sure your communication is clear and that the person understands the strain and depth of the problem. If you do not express how you feel or outwardly communicate what you want, you will not be granted the things that you need.

Screening and Prevention

The most effective way to take care of yourself is to prevent problems altogether. If you are struggling with a certain issue, start to recognize triggers and avoid contact with them. Take aids, medications, and other tools that can potentially help you with you wherever and whenever possible. Be on the lookout for signs of distress and remove yourself from harmful situations if possible.

How to be kind to yourself? – A self-care toolkit

It is so important to show yourself love and kindness. This brings confidence and proves to yourself that you are capable of doing things without the approval or assistance of others. Some general tips for self-care that will provide a basis for your self-love journey:

• Get a good amount of sleep
• Do things that make you happy (watch a movie, catch up with a friend, eat delicious food, partake in hobbies, etc.)
• Avoid dangerous activities and habits
• Take time to appreciate yourself. Have self-compassion in painful moments and learn from negative experiences.

Focus on your positive attributes and know that you are awesome!